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5 Leadership Lessons: How Men and Women Lead Differently

5 Leadership Lessons
Men and women are hard-wired to lead each other differently. Understanding that the human brain is hard-wired with its gender, we can use this information to become more gender-intelligent and balanced. Utilizing these differences gives the organization a competitive advantage. In Leadership and the Sexes, Michael Gurian and Barbara Annis reveal these differences:

1  In women’s brains, there are more active sensorial and emotive centers, and better linkage of these centers to language centers; men’s senses don’t generally work as well as women’s. Men don’t process as much emotion, and men don’t tend to link as much complex emotion or sensorial detail to words. Men downplay emotion, even at the risk of hurt feelings, in order to play up performance. Men are chemically and neurally directed toward immediate rewards from performance, and they often prod—and sometimes humiliate or shame-coworkers in this direction. Women work constantly toward helping others express emotions in words rather than just in actions and search for a method for direct empathy when someone’s feelings are hurt, even at the expense of current goals.

2  In men’s brains, the cerebellum tends to be larger than in the female brain. The cerebellum is the center for action and physical movement. Thus, men tend to communicate more nonverbally, with more emphasis on movement and physicality than women’s emphasis on words. Men also often misread women’s facial expressions of frustration or annoyance—leading women to think that men don’t care. Additionally, men often listen without as much facial expression as women exhibit. Women can tend to feel not heard by men who recline away from them or listen with a blank face.

3  Men’s brains enter a “rest state,” a zone out state, more easily than women’s. This happens many times per day naturally for men – comparatively, women’s brains do not shut off in this way except in sleep. Men’s brains also enter a rest state when quantities of words become overwhelming during communication. Men are more likely to “zone out” if discussions become lengthy or wordy. In a meeting, men may keep themselves awake by what might appear to be fidgeting—clicking a pen, tapping, looking away, and the like.

4  Men’s brains circulate more testosterone than women’s, as compared to women’s greater neural emphasis on oxytocin. Testosterone is a competition/aggression chemical. Oxytocin is a bonding chemical. Quite often during communication, men will try to compete while women try to bond. The more support women build around them, the lower their stress level.

5  Women tend to be more interactive, wanting to keep interactions extended and vital until the interaction has worked through its emotional context. So much more sensory and emotive information is processed through female brain flow that female leaders tend more than men do, to seek more interactions in a day. Men tend to be more transactional in their interactions. Once the transaction of the interaction is complete, they tend to move away from the interaction and back to their more solitary task.
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First Look: Leadership Books for February 2010

Here's a look at some of the best leadership books to be released in February.

  The Right Fight: How Great Leaders Use Healthy Conflict to Drive Performance, Innovation, and Value by Saj-nicole Joni and Damon Beyer
  Mojo: How to Get It, How to Keep It, How to Get It Back if You Lose It by Marshall Goldsmith
  Reflections on Leadership and Career Development: On the Couch with Manfred Kets de Vries by Manfred Kets de Vries
  How the Best Leaders Lead: Proven Secrets to Getting the Most Out of Yourself and Others by Brian Tracy
  Switch: How to Change Things When Change Is Hard by Chip Heath and Dan Heath

The Right Fight Mojo Manfred Kets de Vries Best Leaders Lead Switch

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LeadershipNow 140: January 2010 Compilation

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twitter Here are a selection of tweets from January 2010:
  • Davos: Business Leadership for the 21st Century http://bit.ly/9JYV8g Good panel: Stephen Green, Rosabeth Moss Kanter, Indra Nooyi, Eric Schmidt, Wang Jianzhou
  • RT @tom_peters: Mega-success-tip: Master beginnings! Master endings! Never leave either to chance! (Applies equally to accountant and Broadway actress.)
  • Mike Myatt: The myth of "When To Lead" http://tinyurl.com/ybhknqf >An important point!
  • Not to be missed insights from @JohnBaldoni Check out his blogs: http://bit.ly/1J7hJT and http://bit.ly/a9dvcO
  • Do you think people apply the same values in their private lives as they do in their professional lives? 22%=Yes / 62%=No @ Davos
  • Personal Responsibility: It comes down to individual moral actors making micro-level decisions. Thomas Glocer @ Davos
  • While many things are wrong systemically, I think we have a serious moral compass issue at the individual level. Thomas Glocer @ Davos
  • Are we wise enough to learn frm these lessons & take them into our daily life as a check-list of our daily deeds? Yasuchika Hasegawa @ Davos
  • Scott Elbin: Three Mantras to Keep Your Ego in Check http://bit.ly/aqiEdr
  • Mike Henry Sr: Sources of Leadership http://bit.ly/aSBc7C
  • RT @LeadToday: The only thing worse than training employees and losing them is not training them and keeping them. - Zig Ziglar
  • Michael Roberto: What Happened to Toyota? http://ow.ly/11qV7
  • Good Post: RT @mikemyatt: A closer look at leadership DNA...Do you have it? http://bit.ly/r0FrO
  • RT @hulmevision: Self-respect is the fruit of discipline; the sense of dignity grows with the ability to say no to oneself | A. J. Heschel
  • @davidrock101: 2nd NeuroLeadership Journal is out. Free intro paper outlining NeuroLeadership develpments in 09: http://bit.ly/cDharn (PDF)
  • We usually aren't suffering because we can't solve our problems; we are suffering because we can't see our problems.
  • I was grateful to be able to answer promptly. I said. “I don't know.” ~Mark Twain
  • RT @toddsattersten: "If you work really hard and you are kind, amazing things will happen" Conan closing final show as host of Tonight Show.
  • @BillGates My new website is live check out thegatesnotes. Excited to share more about what I’m learning, hope you like it!
  • Read: To Be or Not to Be? http://wp.me/pt5Ht-4a Being Intentional by @eschreyer
  • RT @eschreyer: Leaders - demanding proof too soon could stifle innovation. Nice read from Business Week: http://bit.ly/59Jj1O
  • Scott Elbin: How Coakley and Brown Pulled Defeat from the Jaws of Victory and Vice Versa: What Leaders Can Learn http://bit.ly/5wedHn
  • FT: Master the mix of continuity and change http://bit.ly/8TACK4
  • Scott Elbin: Six Qualities That Made Martin Luther King, Jr. a Great Speaker http://bit.ly/5jUv94
  • Jerry de Gier: Are We Enjoying the Journey? http://bit.ly/4xc0NK
  • Manias, panics and bubbles all have same characteristic: the absence of real leadership that takes a contrarians perspective. http://ow.ly/VR7c
  • Wally Bock: Leadership Development: Crafting Your Personal Development Plan http://bit.ly/4rMYgg
  • FT: A little knowledge is deadly dangerous: Organisations may already possess the information they need to avoid disaster. http://bit.ly/51njzl
  • TEDxMcGill - Karl Moore on Postmodern Leadership http://bit.ly/6ZcxL3
  • How To Keep Your Plates Spinning in 2010 http://bit.ly/6aYQZf
  • @tom_peters: 2010 quote of the yr award, but also goes into dictionary as Definition #1 of "They just don't get it." http://bit.ly/5OhzkU
  • @hulmevision: The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes | Marcel Proust
  • Wally Bock: Becoming a Great Leader is Up to You http://bit.ly/4ywash
  • Pliny the Younger on relationships: "We are paid in our own coin."
  • 59 Seconds: The myth of the "Yale Goal Setting" Study http://bit.ly/7cnobt
  • Terry Starbucker: A Leadership Checklist: 10 Things To Do Right Now To Make It A Great Year http://46xps.th8.us
  • @Mark_Sanborn: Lessons at Decade's End http://bit.ly/7JXxWZ
  • @rosasay: I once heard it said “hope has nothing to do with what is going on in the world.” So what, then, is it about? http://ow.ly/RZNt
See more on twitter Twitter.
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Leading Views: Toxic Emotions in the Workplace

Leading ViewsPeter Frost explains in Toxic Emotions at Work that toxicity is a normal by-product of organizational life. According to Frost, when ignored, toxic emotions betray employees' hopes, bruise their egos, reduce their enthusiasm for work, and diminish their sense of connectedness to their company's community and goals. Compassionate responses to pain, on the other hand, encourage those who are suffering to effect constructive changes in their work lives. Despite their powerful role in employee performance, toxic emotions are rarely addressed by organizations:

It is true that good leadership by its very nature engenders pain. It pushes people out of their comfort zones—which is necessary to get things done in a world of competition and change. Even so, some managers are malicious or lack good decision-making or people-managing skills, and therefore unduly contribute to the frustration, anger and low morale of their employees.

Not just managers but organizations themselves create conditions for toxicity through policies and practices that fail to include the human factor in their execution. Their modes of production, especially the ever-changing technologies of work, squeeze out time for humanity, for civility, for people to reflect on their actions.

We need to recognize that the values we reinforce in our organizations often are a prime source of toxicity. Unbridled attention to the bottom line, regardless of what it takes to achieve a given return on investments, blinds us to the possibilities of even more long-run effectiveness, if we take into account the value and emotional health of our workforce. The toxicity that flows from managers who ignore the emotional costs of their actions (to themselves and to others) can poison the wells of innovation and goodwill in the company. Corporate lies, distortions, and manipulations that cover up mistakes and foster self-aggrandizement do little to benefit any of the stakeholders.
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Social Media for Business event

I will be speaking at the Social Media for Business event at Worcester Business school tomorrow (3rd Feb).  We'll be running a live blog of the event so if you can't attend physically, you can still keep up to date virtually.  To participate all you need to do is join in below.

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